How to stay cool

(just read this on a magazine~)

The three best ways to cope with your anger (and avoid the defibrillator):

1. Recognize that anger is universal.
We're stuck with it, and making sure it doesn't hurt you means understanding when to express it, and when to let it go. It's having only one way to react——always or never——that can make anger a problem.

2. Ask yourself if whatever made you angry is important.
Is what you're thinking and feeling appropriate to the objective facts of the situation? Can you modify this situation? Is it worth taking action?

3. Talk yourself down:
a. Yell "Stop!" to yourself (silently) when you start replaying an offense;
b. distract yourself (surf travel sites for dream vacations);
c. breathe in, clench your fist, breathe out, release fist...

My favorite quotes (Part 2)

▲The happiest people don't have everything in life. They just make the best of everything that life brings their way. ~ K.S. Magee

▲If you believe it will work out, you'll see opportunities. If you believe it won't,you will see obstacles. ~ DrWayneWDyer @ Twitter

▲Don't let anyone tell you that you have to be a certain way. Be unique. Be what you feel. ~ Melissa Etheridge

▲Don’t let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. ~ Steve Jobs

▲In life, you'll need 50% compliments and 50% critics. They both work the same: motivating. ~ helloelvia @ Twitter

▲Instead of criticizing other people, choose the Power position and Be the Example. ~ TheDailyLove @ Twitter

▲You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try. ~ Beverly Sills

▲The HAPPIEST people do not necessarily have the "best" things. They simply APPRECIATE the things they do have. ~ Warren Buffett

▲When we find ourselves surrounded by darkness it is not a punishment, but an opportunity to shine the Light within. ~ TheDailyLove @ Twitter

▲Love is love.It's not about the gender, color, age. It's about the emotion,the respect &the fulfillment between two individuals. ~ Jill Goldstein

▲It is better to look ahead & prepare than to look back & regret. ~ Jackie Joyner Kersee

▲The only person u have to convince of your worth is you. If ppl don't see it, it's their loss. ~ TheDailyLove @ Twitter

▲Sometimes the best things on earth are not meant to be yours bcs you have your own better way. ~ helloelvia @ Twitter

▲There are so many things can make you happy. Don't focus too much on things that make you sad. ~wilzkanadi @ Twitter

▲You cannot control everything that will happen today. Yet you can completely control the person you will be today. ~ TweetMoveOn @ Twitter

If by life you were deceived...

It’s a poem written by the Russian poet Pushkin. When I was in junior school, I read it by chance and loved it immediately. At that time,I was a little upset.(When I looked back on those days,of course you know,it's not a big deal,just some teenager issues.) It seemed like everything didn't go well.I wondered why these things kept happening to me.It was frustrating.At one time, I thought things wouldn't be better. But this poem inspired me a lot and made me stay positive. I even wrote it down and shared it with my best friend.
I still love it nowadays.And I start to believe that everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end. ... life does not put things in front of you that you are unable to handle. There's always hope.You just gotta keep going and hope for the best.


The original Russian version:

Если жизнь тебя обманет...
(1825) А.C. Пушкин.

Если жизнь тебя обманет,
Не печалься, не сердись!
В день уныниясмирись:
День веселья, верь, настанет.

Сердце в будущем живет;
Настоящее уныло:
Все мгновенно, все пройдет;
Что пройдет, то будет мило.

English Version:

If by life you were deceived...
(1825) Pushkin

If by life you were deceived,
Don't be dismal, don't be wild!
In the day of grief, be mild
Merry days will come, believe.

Heart is living in tomorrow;
Present is dejected here;
In a moment, passes sorrow;
That which passes will be dear.


Chinese Version:

假如生活欺騙了你...
(1825) 普希金

假如生活欺騙了你,
不要悲傷,不要心急!
憂郁的日子需要鎮靜,
快樂的日子將會來臨.

心永遠向往著未來,
現在卻常是憂郁,
一切都是瞬息,一切都將會過去,
而那過去了的,就會成為親切的懷念!

My favorite quotes (Part 1)

▲It's nasty out there,but shoving your head in the sand doesn't make the world go away. ~ "Hero"

▲Happiness is not by chance, but by choice. ~Jim Rohn

▲I don't sit in the dark and curse the dark, I try to light a match! ~ Dr. Maya Angelou

▲Get knocked down,get back up again.Don't ever stop believing yourself. ~ Ellen DeGeneres

▲There's not much of a difference between a stadium full of cheering fans and an angry crowd screaming abuse at you.They're both just making a lot of noise.How you take it is up to you. Convince yourself they're cheering for you.You do that,and someday they will. ~ "Glee"

▲Don't throw it all away just because of a bad break-up. ~ "House"

▲I believe that every no is just a yes to something better. ~ ihatequotes @ twitter

▲Don't lose track of who you are just because it might be easier to be somebody else. ~ "Glee"

▲In relationships,focus on the 90 percent that u like rather than the 10 percent u don't like. ~ unknown

▲Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you'll never, ever have enough. ~ Oprah

▲Don't change to please someone else, change because it makes you a better person. ~ rexyechi @twitter

▲Well,that's your opinion,isn't it?And I'm not about to waste my time trying to change it. ~ lady gaga

▲Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should dance. ~ Anonymous

▲Don't be in denial about the darkness in you, but don't be in denial about the light within you either! ~ marwilliamson @ twitter

▲No one ever won a chess match by making forward moves only. Just like in life, You have to move backward to take a better step forward. ~ thequotewhore @twitter

▲You can't live your life to please others. The choice must be yours. ~ "Alice in Wonderland"

▲In a relationship, you have to accept the other person for all of what they are, not just the parts that are easy to like. ~ "Valentines Day"

▲How you feel now will pass, don't let it screw up your whole life. ~ "House"

▲Why are you trying so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out? ~ Oprah_World @ twitter

▲If you greatly desire something, have the guts to stake everything on obtaining it. ~ Brendan Francis

▲Life's hard, but you're not the only one. Many people out there are worse than you, and they still survive. ~ WilzKanadi @ twitter

▲Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end. ~ tiffanywilliam @ twitter

▲Don't wait for the perfect moment, take the moment and make it PERFECT. ~ unknown

▲Be unique.Be different. And shine in your own way. ~ lady gaga

▲If you don't like something, change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it. ~ Mary Engelbreit

▲You'll never have what u like until you learn to like what you have. ~ Goethe

▲If there's something you really want, or someone you really want to be, the only person standing in your way is you. ~ "Shrek"

▲Just because people treat you like a loser, doesn't mean you are one. What matters most is what you think of yourself. ~ "Shrek"

▲Our greatest glory consists not in never falling,but in raising every time we fall. ~ O.Goldsmith

▲Don't change for anybody but yourself. Be happy with who you are! Someone will appreciate and adore you just as you are. ~ Kim Kardashian